Learning To Be A Parent and Single Can Take Ages

When I had my first child, I was not ready to be a mother and didn't know how. I was 17 years old. I was just blessed that I had two loving caring parents that took my daughter as their own. Of course they let her know that I was her mother. My father told me point blank. "I could go any where I wanted to, but the baby stays" and so that's the way it was. I was still in my parent home and my last year in highs school, single and had no husband and the best place for her was with my parents and I did not neglected her.

Now when I had the second child at age 21, I still didn't know how to be a parent. Still single, no husband but had my own home. I had my friends and family to help me. I couldn't take my babies to the doctors for their shots because I can't to this day bare to see a needle, less long one going into my baby arms. Ooooooo! I cry when I go to the dentist :) I'm strong but weak <3 .

I'm age 51 now. My daughters and I have a great relationship because I never abandon them. but gave them what I could. My hats off to all Mothers, young and old. I now have 2 grand girls. My oldest I practically raise, "given back" she is now 13. and my newest stay with her parents. I thank God for my parents and the people he placed in my life to help me with my children. We are bless because the love is still there after all we went through. To God Be The Glory!

Mistakes happens in our lives and sometimes we do what we gotta do, instead of doing what we planed to do.  But when it is all said and done, and we look back over our life, we don't regret any of it.  I was blessed to be raised by my father and mother who instilled good work ethics, responsibilities, punished when disobedient, rewarded when behaved and taught to love and respect our elders with humbled answers like; 'yes sir or ma am or no sir or ma am' and most of all stay out of grown folks conversations.

Now a days, things are totally different. The parents do everything for the children today. Some children don't have to make their beds, the parents do it for them. Some children don't get punished for mis-behaving, the police intervenes and Some children are raised by both parents and still not appreciated.  Adults can be holding a conversation and a child will jump right in filling in the gaps. We would have had to go to the Dentist to get some fillings, cause our teeth would have been on the floor! Wow! my how time change.

We all learn from the mistakes and errors in our life. We do what we can do with what we have. It may not always be pleasing and or acceptable to all but when one has giving all one have to give, what more can one ask for?